A Manifesto for 2018

We are once again standing on the cusp of a new year.

It’s a time every year when my failures each ring their own bell and demand my attention. “Look at me,” they each scream. “Look at me! Don’t forget the detour I created! You suck and are teeming with regret at the sight of me!”

Frigging bastards.

When looking ahead to a new calendar, I’ve tended to play the victim and blame my failures and shortcomings on my self-perceived inadequacies, half of which are undoubtedly formed by unrealistic societal expectations.

I’ve also blamed time: there’s not enough, or there’s too much.

Either way, I’m continually thrown off the path that I believed would lead me to attaining my goals, yet while I paved it with good intentions, I also paved it with excuses chock full of my own bullshit.

The cycle of getting nowhere very quickly happens every year because I allow it to.

That stops now.

There’s no resolutions for me this year.

No, sir.

Instead, my goal from today forward is to live the hell out of every minute of this extraordinary life and truly cherish the miracle that is the present moment.

Whether I am writing, swimming, driving, exploring, laughing with family and friends, teaching…whatever I am doing, I will give myself fully to that miraculous moment.

The fact that I’m sitting here all snug and warm, with a cup of hot coffee to my left and quiet music playing as snowflakes delicately dance down from the clouds to the ground…there’s so tiny miracles right here in this present moment, miracles that I always took for granted or overlooked.

What matters, I mean what truly matters, is this moment.

I am alive.

And so are you.

This is a time of rebirth, a time to take those lessons from past failures and regret, be thankful for them, and apply their wisdom while moving forward.

No more bowing down to society’s expectations or to feeding the trolls of self-deprecation. I am not inadequate and I do matter, if only to myself.

It’s time to live the hell out of this one and precious life I’ve been given, because I am not promised a tomorrow. Wasting time is no longer an option, either.

I will live with those who are alongside me in real life and for those who are alongside me in spirit.

I will be a beacon of kindness and empathy as I look to stand alongside my fellow humans with understanding and compassion.

I will be grateful for everything I experience and for everyone I interact with.

Most importantly, I will embrace and celebrate the moments extraordinary that fill my days with joy and with purpose as I pursue my passions with conviction.

Let’s do this, 2018!

With gratitude and joy,

Jill

Note: This was also posted on jillocone.com. 

Something to SEA: The Time Manifesto

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Time.

We think it is endless, with an unlimited balance.

We live like there’s another life with more time waiting for us in a bank somewhere, ready to protect us with an overdraft if we reach our spending limit.

The minutes speed by quicker and quicker every year, every month, every day…and our overdraft disappears.

Someday. Someday we say.  But when is that day?

Before we know it, we turn the calendar to the next month. Then turn it again…and so on.

We change the clocks.  Forward and back.  Forward and back…and so on.

Our schedule is not ours.  It is regimented by others.

Others who think our time is not valuable as theirs.

Others who put their agenda before our well-being.

Others who determine our worth by requiring a financial payment month after month, year after year.

In the big picture, what’s my balance, anyway?

I might have a few minutes left, or years and years and years…

Only the teller in the sky keeping track of my account knows.

The truth: my TIME is worth more than all of the money in the world.

Time.

It’s TIME to reclaim MY time.

It’s TIME to LIVE THIS LIFE, my valuable life filled with my valuable time.

It’s TIME to move forward with positivity, with kindness, and with compassion as I spend the rest of my time here on Earth in the most meaningful way:

LIVING.

“Sea”king MY soul.

On MY terms.

Helping when I can.

Sharing experiences with the people who are important to me.

Seeing the places I want to see.

Making the memories I want to make.

A life that is free and so full that no overdraft will be required when my account is closed.

Isn’t it TIME for you to join me?